Wow. Honestly if I read one more misspelled (but checked by computer) book I shall explode. Great review. I’m not in favour of book burning, usually, but this drivel needs to be eliminated.
I realize this is tangential to the point of the first chapter but the phrase "an old-fashioned, analog, gritty kind of beep" is absolutely throwing me. I have never heard of someone describing an analog alarm clock as beeping before. Ringing, sure, but not beeping. Given how she describes the frequency of the beeping changing, I'm guessing this is a digital alarm clock. Does Lindy West not know the difference between analog and digital? I suppose the use of analog could be metaphor, but that would require accepting that I'm the stupid one here, and I refuse to accept that.
I was in therapy for a time, due to intense retardation (I got better). My guy gave me advice once in a blue moon, either an excited utterance he couldn't suppress, or a couple times I was able to drag it out of him. You could tell it went against his training and principles.
The people who crow about "my therapist said..." are hurting themselves and making it harder for everyone else, too. Introspective people who might benefit from therapy see stuff like that and think "therapy must be bullshit." For some people everything is bullshit.
Agree with your thoughts on therapy but Jesus, I forgot how bad her paranoia is because she came up on writing online. If you think that random strangers are bombing your friend's house a la the Irish Troubles because of online Sex and the City discourse, somebody who is guaranteed to be friendly and sympathetic must be a godsend, even if they do nothing to solve any problems in your life.
A thruple? Clearly the most stable relationship arrangement is a quadruple, all the most stable tables I know have four legs. Seriously though, I could write at length about the enshittification of contemporary therapy brought on by the lack of actual mental health care funding that has lead to the loosening of professional standards and the related explosion of degree mills, plus profit driven "solutions" like better help. Lacanian analysis for all!
I had the exact same thought about the legs lol. Four partners must be ideal relationship size, but five or more is redundant. And yeah, BetterHelp psychology gigification can only bring bad things.
I blame the body positivity movement. Clearly you shouldn't shame people for being fat, or blame them for being so.
But being fat is bad for your health, and for some reason there are a lot more fat people in the US, which is probably related to all the other shitty aspects of US life (bad food, too many cars, lack of public space, pollution, shitty healthcare, long working hours).
I sort of approach it like smoking. Obviously there are a lot of complex factors that can lead one to get addicted to cigarettes, I don't think we should ignore those things, and I also don't think we should make people feel bad about smoking or shame them or make them feel unattractive. Also, people should be free to choose to live their lives a certain way -- you don't HAVE to eat well or exercise on my account. But you should at least accept that it's an unhealthy way to live your life, and I know people would like to tell me that body positivity people do accept that, except that a lot of them don't! I've encountered a number of body positivity people in real meatspace who have told me there's nothing inherently unhealthy about being overweight, in spite of the fact that a lot of the problems are plain physics. Most recently I've seen some people way in deep defending people with anorexia, and that made me immediately log off for the week.
“…as they appropriate therapy-speak throughout their day-to-day lives in an effort to control the chaos,” this right here is the therapeutic antithesis—any therapist worth a grain of salt will attempt to teach you that control is a myth—chaos cannot be negotiated with. For LW I want to want her to be at peace with this life she has chosen, but I also want it to blow apart bc she has grown so comfortable w her own exploitation
Oh I’m seated
Sitting my white ass down and listening
*straight-sized ass
Wow. Honestly if I read one more misspelled (but checked by computer) book I shall explode. Great review. I’m not in favour of book burning, usually, but this drivel needs to be eliminated.
I'm glad my only long term engagement with therapy as an adult was CPT which is just learning that your brain is actually really dumb
Occupational therapy was a big one for me, helped a lot
I realize this is tangential to the point of the first chapter but the phrase "an old-fashioned, analog, gritty kind of beep" is absolutely throwing me. I have never heard of someone describing an analog alarm clock as beeping before. Ringing, sure, but not beeping. Given how she describes the frequency of the beeping changing, I'm guessing this is a digital alarm clock. Does Lindy West not know the difference between analog and digital? I suppose the use of analog could be metaphor, but that would require accepting that I'm the stupid one here, and I refuse to accept that.
this woman has yet to find a boundary she can't manage to violate, I see no reason why analog/digital should be an exception
Given she lives her life online, maybe she sees anything in meatspace as 'analog'.
lmao great observation. Would also be incredible if she WAS just describing "ringing" as "gritty, analogy beeping."
I was in therapy for a time, due to intense retardation (I got better). My guy gave me advice once in a blue moon, either an excited utterance he couldn't suppress, or a couple times I was able to drag it out of him. You could tell it went against his training and principles.
The people who crow about "my therapist said..." are hurting themselves and making it harder for everyone else, too. Introspective people who might benefit from therapy see stuff like that and think "therapy must be bullshit." For some people everything is bullshit.
It seems like a cultural thing, a desire to make therapy a process of easy answers, like what Megachurch Evangelicalism did with Abrahamic religion.
How dare she slander the big boob tree?!
What I wanna know is why we aren't talking about the big titty harpy
Ageism, I suspect.
Agree with your thoughts on therapy but Jesus, I forgot how bad her paranoia is because she came up on writing online. If you think that random strangers are bombing your friend's house a la the Irish Troubles because of online Sex and the City discourse, somebody who is guaranteed to be friendly and sympathetic must be a godsend, even if they do nothing to solve any problems in your life.
I routinely believe I'm going to get John Lennon'd by someone who didn't like my viral anti-Margaret-Atwood piece
A thruple? Clearly the most stable relationship arrangement is a quadruple, all the most stable tables I know have four legs. Seriously though, I could write at length about the enshittification of contemporary therapy brought on by the lack of actual mental health care funding that has lead to the loosening of professional standards and the related explosion of degree mills, plus profit driven "solutions" like better help. Lacanian analysis for all!
I had the exact same thought about the legs lol. Four partners must be ideal relationship size, but five or more is redundant. And yeah, BetterHelp psychology gigification can only bring bad things.
Three is a milking stool
I blame the body positivity movement. Clearly you shouldn't shame people for being fat, or blame them for being so.
But being fat is bad for your health, and for some reason there are a lot more fat people in the US, which is probably related to all the other shitty aspects of US life (bad food, too many cars, lack of public space, pollution, shitty healthcare, long working hours).
Maybe focus on those things?
I sort of approach it like smoking. Obviously there are a lot of complex factors that can lead one to get addicted to cigarettes, I don't think we should ignore those things, and I also don't think we should make people feel bad about smoking or shame them or make them feel unattractive. Also, people should be free to choose to live their lives a certain way -- you don't HAVE to eat well or exercise on my account. But you should at least accept that it's an unhealthy way to live your life, and I know people would like to tell me that body positivity people do accept that, except that a lot of them don't! I've encountered a number of body positivity people in real meatspace who have told me there's nothing inherently unhealthy about being overweight, in spite of the fact that a lot of the problems are plain physics. Most recently I've seen some people way in deep defending people with anorexia, and that made me immediately log off for the week.
Now I know, I guess…
“…as they appropriate therapy-speak throughout their day-to-day lives in an effort to control the chaos,” this right here is the therapeutic antithesis—any therapist worth a grain of salt will attempt to teach you that control is a myth—chaos cannot be negotiated with. For LW I want to want her to be at peace with this life she has chosen, but I also want it to blow apart bc she has grown so comfortable w her own exploitation
"loudly-lowing lolcows"
why cain't I quit [reading] you
this is why